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One mum asked for advice online, over concern that her three-year-old son might face hassle in the future, due to his unusual moniker, which she has faced criticism over

A mum is worried her son might be teased at school after her family pointed out the potential consequences of his nickname.

The three-year-old boy has been called by his nickname since he was born – and he doesn’t even respond to his legal name.

But now she’s worried that he might face ridicule in the future when he goes to school and doesn’t “want to make his life unnecessarily harder.”

However, she admits she loves the name and her son has only had a few issues so far – so what’s the problem really?

Asking for advice on Reddit, she explained: “I have a child named after an animal. It wasn’t intentional, but when I was pregnant with him, I slipped up and called him by this nickname when trying to say his actual name, and everyone loved it and it just stuck.

“For privacy, I won’t share it but assume it’s like Liam/Lamb. So our child has only known their name as ‘Lamb’, and wouldn’t know you were talking about them if you said ‘Liam’.

“He is special needs, which was not anticipated, which makes making the change very hard.”

Being forced to stay at home during the coronavirus pandemic, their child hasn’t been doing much socialising with kids his own age.

But he recently made a friend over Facetime and the child “started bahhhhhing at him.”

“Nobody’s feelings were hurt, and we all laughed, but I realise now that I may be a huge a**hole for giving my kid this name and not fixing it by now,” admitted the mum.

“We met someone once and when they asked our kids’ names, they got angry when we said this one and said we were cruel and abusive to give a kid a ‘weird’ name.

“I knew a few kids with weird names myself growing up, and for the most part people thought it was cool, not weird, but those were my teen years, and I’m almost forty so what do I know?

“Most people say the name is cute. They could be humouring us. Some people assume that is his name. Some say it reminds them of a beloved movie character, which I see.

“[School] will be popping up soon and we need to figure out what the hell we are doing about this.”

After asking for advice on what to do on Reddit, people reassured the mum that she hadn’t made a mistake.

One wrote: “For real, there is no doubt far worse that you could have named him. And kids will pick on each other for everything. I was bullied for living in a different country for a short span of time.”

Another added: “You really need to teach this kid his legal name, then. What are you going to do when everyone at school, including teachers, sees his name on the roster as “Liam” and starts calling him that?

“You may be able to correct his main teacher, but not every counsellor, principal, lunch server, music teacher, etc.”

A third wrote: “There are plenty of people called Bear, Fox, Wren, Dove, Birdie, Bunny, Cat, Tiger, Jay, etc. Their lives are not blighted.

“One person’s weird is another person’s normal. Ignore the unkind people who think this is abuse.”